Is the Magic Gone?
Excerpt from Men-The Gods of Love, Chapter 5: The Battle of the Sexes
Men face the challenge of an initiation into an undefined masculinity. Unfortunately, men have been given a false model of patriarchal machismo to follow. This only prevents men from reaching their true, magnificent, powerfully loving selves and makes their relationships with the feminine all the more difficult.
Women want men to be more like them, to have emotions and be sensitive to them. All the while men should continue fulfilling their “strong protective” role in the outer world, for them. This is being between a “rock and a hard place” for men, the proverbial Catch 22 - “damned if you do, damned if you don’t.” And it keeps men trapped in confusion on how to please their women, as a man.
Men will go out and have a beer or sex or do something to distract themselves from these intolerable emotions and their ensuing shame cycles. From men’s patriarchal viewpoint, women seem to be ego-centric and controlled by their “irrational” feelings, so why would men want to be like that? Besides, what if men had feelings and cried! Remember - Big Boys don’t cry! We have a dilemma here that creates feelings of uncertainty. Uncertainty is not allowed, as men have been taught they must know what they are doing, or they’re weak and not real men. Can you hear the crack of the whip of shame?
Now, if men’s feelings, which come from their feminine side are undesirable and can’t be trusted - then what about women themselves??? Women are the embodiment of emotions, which men are taught is what is wrong with and can’t be trusted in themselves to begin with. Therefore, logic dictates that women can’t be trusted because they are weak and irrationally controlled by emotions. “Houston, we have a problem!” - No wonder relationships are in such styleturmoil.
Excerpt from Men-The Gods of Love, Chapter 11: Love
When your love flows, you feel the love in you as it passes through you. Then the inner emptiness is filled, the aching erased.
This is the secret of life. Only love is real; the rest is illusion, and love is the only thing that can fill us. This is why, when we fall in love, we feel it so strongly. Yet, we mistakenly place responsibility for this feeling of our love on to others. They are just the catalysts, the ones that call forth our expressions of love. Then we try to hold it, control it, and it loses its luster. Often, this is how relationships die. The vital flowing life force of love was mistakenly restricted, withered, and died. Love is derived from our divine essence: the Self that is directly connected to love’s source. It only stops when we try to contain it.
Therefore, to feel filled with love, we can keep searching for catalyst after catalyst or we can bring it forth from within through the act of giving it out to others.
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